Watching nature take its course, from the top of a hill in northern England



My father in law died peacefully on Tuesday of last week at the residential in Oxford where he’d been living for the last six months, he died the day before what would have been his 91st Birthday.

Up until recently he had been in very good health, fit and very active. He loved to travel, one of his favourite places (and he’d travelled to many) was the Isle of Eigg on the west coast of Scotland, he returned there many times.

Red roof

It’s been a difficult time, regular readers might remember my mother in law died last September followed by the untimely death of our friend Darren just a few weeks later. *Sigh*.



Author: uphilldowndale

Watching the rhythm of rural life, from the top of a hill in northern England. Having spent most of my life avoiding writing, I now need to do it! I am no domestic goddess, but if I were expecting visitors to my home, I would whisk round with the duster and plump up the cushions and generally make the place look presentable. I hope that by putting my words where others may see them it will encourage me to ‘tidy up and push the Hoover around’ my writing. On the other hand I may just be adding to the compost heap. Only time will tell! Pull up a chair, sit yourself down, I’ll put the kettle on.

33 thoughts on “Family

  1. Sorry to “like” this post…..So sorry for your losses and these very hard times in your life…wishing you happier days ahead..

  2. I’m so sorry for your losses. Having gone through a year or two like that, I know what it’s like. Wishing you and your family peace, and all the healing tears you need to get through your grief.

  3. It’s hard to beat the west highlands for peace for the spirit.

  4. My best friend lost both her parents (I still have both of mine), and she rounded on me one day with, “You don’t understand. I’m a complete orphan, now. It’s a horrible, disconnected, rootless feeling.” She’s right. I don’t understand. Nobody does until it happens to them. My deepest sympathy to you and your family, and especially to Mr. UHDD. He was blessed to have had his parents as long as he did.

    • Yes indeed WOL, the ‘orphan’ analogy has been raised a few times this week. Fortunately his parents had very full and healthy lives and were able to maintain their independence.

  5. Certainly too many losses too fast. They say bad things come in three. Perhaps you will be done with bad things for some time now. My condolences to your family. When someone reaches that age, it would be very hard to imagine the world without them.

  6. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. My dad died in March at 83, and though both he and your father in law had good long lives, the inevitable death of a parent still knocks you back. I’m so sorry.

  7. My sympathies. I hope that life becomes more settled for you. xx

  8. Sorry to hear about yet another loss, Mr Uhdd, and so unexpected once again. Thank goodness you are not an ‘orphan’ as you have your own children. And of course, you have Mrs Uhdd, where would we be without her?

  9. I’m sorry for your losses. Thinking of you and sending love.

  10. I’m sorry for your loss – and send my thoughts and best wishes for the family in the coming time.

  11. So sorry for your loss. Our rational minds tell us that losing a parent is part of life, but by jings, it’s a painful part. *hugs* for the whole family.

  12. Condolences to you and your family. So sorry to hear about Mr. UHDD’s dad. I bet he had some stories to tell, living such a long life. My thoughts are with you.

  13. Hi, new to your blog…..sorry to hear about the family. We can understand your feeling, as my wife lost her two brothers recently from the dreaded C within about a year, our young nephew has a brain tumour, and our son (just turned 40) has had a serious painful nerve problem, and a majot operation for cancer. Life is sometimes just like that, I can’t explain it, or give specific advice…as everyone’s experience is individual, but we just have to plod on. May God be with you.

  14. My condolences to you and your family.

  15. Belated but heartfelt condolences to you & Mr UHDD. Losing a parent is so hard, even when they’ve lived a long, full life.

  16. I am very late reading of your loss. Please accept my sympathy. These past months must have been hard on you. I hope that you will find peace and comfort little by little.

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